Non non monogamy

New lovers name should now be changed to oldlover. He wants to get back with his wife. He cant, but that doesn’t affect the impact it has on me of course. I know we weren’t going out together by any stretch but there was at least something pseudo romantic about our engagement. Its a shift for me and its not pleasant. I haven’t had as … Continue reading Non non monogamy

Men are like buses…

You wait for ages… In all honesty I haven’t waited for ages, and they haven’t all come along at once, but still – at the moment there’s 5 of them. And I feel this is the balance for all those times I had 3 possible dates lined up and they all fell through. Yep – sometimes you’re losing & sometimes…. newlover. He is like, my … Continue reading Men are like buses…

I want a child

I can pinpoint the exact day I decided I wanted to have a child. Friday 13th January 2017. It was precipitated, necessitated by; a) Sometimes feeling lost, alone and having existential crises in Mexico – for it not being the constant joyous romp I had imagined it would. (Though of course the joy and romp I did in fact experience has been well documented in … Continue reading I want a child

My 3 Casual Dating Criteria

I have 3 criteria for the people I casually date; We are attracted to eachother We are nice to eachother and can communicate (ok maybe that’s 1.5…) They are reliable. For someone I haven’t yet been on a date with I have just ONE criteria; They are reliable. Because quite frankly, someone I’ve been speaking to online is 100% useless to me if that’s all … Continue reading My 3 Casual Dating Criteria

Female Pleasure… or not (Censored)

The blurb on my Tinder profile is pretty clear; ‘Straight up kinda gal, looking to meet nice guys for flings… (am I allowed to be that honest on here :)?!)’ I find it works pretty well, I get lots of matches and its genuinely what I’m looking for at the moment, so cuts out a lot of pointless chat and workings out with people who … Continue reading Female Pleasure… or not (Censored)

Turns out I’ll go to quite some lengths for a hook up…! (Censored)

When I was in Ghana in 2000 volunteering, I shaved my legs with a shit razor and sliced some skin off the delicate part just above my left ankle. Yup – OUCH! That fucker bled like crazy. Since then a long time has passed (you do the maths) but I somehow managed to reopen this wound on the exact same spot by…you guessed it! Using … Continue reading Turns out I’ll go to quite some lengths for a hook up…! (Censored)

Women, be more like men; direct blame outwards

My previous partner blamed me for most things that went wrong. Him feeling stressed on the ‘holiday of a lifetime’ we took together to the far east to attend his brother’s wedding, his stress at me moving up to live with him (read; me leaving my job, my home, family and friends to leave everything that had been familiar to me my whole life to … Continue reading Women, be more like men; direct blame outwards

The thing that’s so great….

The thing that is just so great for me about the way I view things now is that all of that stuff – the things people used to say, that they still might say – the ‘old paradigm’ stuff where what I should be ultimately working towards is a partner and probably kids, and anything that isn’t about working towards that is wasting my time … Continue reading The thing that’s so great….